it's okay to be sad

What people don’t tell you is that it’s okay to be sad.  People don’t tell you this and they want you to laugh and smile when they console you, because your misery reminds them of their own, and of their failures and shortcomings and fears. And, because people don’t really know how to face those nightmares, and they don’t want to face them at all, so they resent you and desperately try to cheer you up until they give up and disappear and you're left to wallow and grow all on your own.